by May McCarthy
Every New Year, the topic of resolutions comes up. People are fired up and optimistic about achieving their goals. My friends powerfully proclaim, “I want to lose ten pounds” or “I want to get out of debt.” One friend said, “I hope that this year Uncle Bob isn’t a pain in everyone’s neck at the family reunion.” One thing that these resolutions or goals have in common is that they’re going to produce more of what these people don’t want in their lives.
Our subconscious is designed to help us achieve whatever we focus our attention on. To accomplish the goal “I want to lose ten pounds,” you have to be always wanting to lose and never achieving. A better way to state your desired outcome is to say with gratitude: “I am so grateful I have a physically fit, trim, toned, and energetic body that is pain-free and easily able to go on walks with my family and friends. We have so much fun together!” With a goal like this, your subconscious and your intuition are going to show up more often, and in more obvious ways, to point you toward steps you can take to make those statements true.
Our words are powerful tools that help us to receive whatever we describe. Unfortunately, we often give voice to what we don’t want instead of what we do, and then we’re surprised and disappointed with the results. For example, I know a saleswoman who often says things like, “I really hope that I’m not late for my appointment with ABC Company on Tuesday. They are a huge potential customer and I don’t want them to buy from my competitor.”
Do you see anything problematic in these statements? Perhaps not, since many of us have learned to speak like this. We talk about what we don’t want as a normal part of our speech. In this example, the saleswoman is most likely going to be late for her appointment with ABC Company since that’s what she’s focused on, and she may lose the sale to one of her competitors. Her subconscious recognizes that she’s focused on being late and her customer buying from a competitor. Accordingly, she may act in a way that makes those statements true..
To enable her subconscious and intuition to help her, a more powerful statement would be, “I am so grateful to be on time and early for my appointments. I’m going to arrive at ABC Company 15 minutes early for my meeting, and I’m excited for the opportunity to sell our products and have my customer receive great value in return.” In response, her subconscious and intuition will show up in a more obvious way to help make those statements true. She might get a strong, unexpected thought to check the traffic report before she decides on a route to the appointment and avoid a terrible accident and backup. She may feel an intuitive nudge to get ready sooner than she normally does so that she can leave earlier. She might receive an email or phone call that gives her insight into her customer’s needs so that her presentation can be designed to be more valuable.
We can choose to use our words to achieve more of our goals in 2016. To do this, follow the three simple steps below:
- Rewrite your goals daily with gratitude as though you’ve already achieved them.
Describe the outcome that you want to experience and be grateful in advance for the achievement. For example, “I am so grateful that I am living in a beautiful new home that allows my family and me to feel comfortable, safe and happy,” or “I’m delighted to receive a minimum of $____ that easily affords all of my living, giving and entertainment expenses. I use my talents and skills in fulfilling and satisfying ways.” Rewrite your goals daily to keep them at the forefront of your thoughts and enable your subconscious and intuition to help you notice more possibilities throughout the day to make your statements true.
- Read your goal statements out loud with emotion.
The practice of reading your goal statements out loud anchors the meaning more fully within you. This tells your brain you’re serious so you can begin to notice more opportunities to take steps toward achieving your goals. Muhammad Ali, one of the world’s greatest boxers, said, “It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.” Speaking your goal statements daily with emotion helps to convince you that achieving your goals is possible. Once you believe, you can receive.
- Imagine yourself achieving your desired outcomes.
As you create a clear picture of your realized goals in your mind, you are creating new beliefs to make those goals manifest. Visualizing the successful completion of a goal is a powerful method that many professional athletes, musicians, and businesspeople use daily as part of their preparation and training for success. Four-time Mr. Universe and seven-time Mr. Olympia Arnold Schwarzenegger has not only used mental imaging for athletic success but also credits it for his success as a Hollywood actor: “When I was very young I visualized myself being and having what it was I wanted. Mentally I never had any doubts about it.” Well-known author Robert Collier puts it this way. “Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint, and begin to build.” As you begin to see and feel yourself in your realized goals, you’ll welcome your achieved goals sooner.
Set aside 20 minutes every morning to repeat the steps described above. The key is to spend more time focusing on what you want to achieve rather than on what you don’t want or what others say you can’t do. You have the freedom to choose! As you focus more of your time on your achieved goals, you will manifest more of them into your life. Earl Nightingale, a respected author and motivational speaker, said, “Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality.”
Repetition changes your beliefs; and once that happens, you will achieve your goals sooner and the results will last longer. 2016 can be your happiest New Year of all time, and your well-worded resolutions can help you to reap the rewards that you want!
May McCarthy has co-founded six successful companies over her thirty-two-year career. She credits her success to the principles described in her new book, The Path to Wealth: Seven Spiritual Steps for Financial Abundance. She firmly believes that financial success and freedom are available to anyone who is willing to apply these principles. www.maymccarthy.com.