by Phyllis Kennemer
“Love your neighbor as yourself.” Mark 12:31
When Jesus said, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” he was telling us to start with self-love. We often ignore that piece of his wise counsel and twist it to mean, love others more than ourselves. That is not what he said. He expected us to love ourselves first.
Loving ourselves does not mean that we are vain or egotistical or selfish. It means that we are starting with the basics. If we do not love ourselves, then we are not in a space to love others. If we do not love ourselves, we do not feel worthy of receiving love from others.
Dr. Nadine, the founder and healing practitioner of Magnificence Mine (www.MagnificenceMine.com), is dedicated to helping others find the power of self-love. She works with people to heal past hurts and traumas. Dr. Nadine explains that she came to understand the value of self-love as a result of many disturbing and debilitating experiences which began in early childhood and continued into her adult years. As a result of these events, she learned not to trust anyone as she sank deeper and deeper into a state of negativity and self-hatred.
A diagnosis of cancer in 2003 awakened Dr. Nadine to the concept of self-love. She believes that physical illnesses originate in emotional traumas. Her trauma resulted in cervical cancer and her surgery in 2004 successfully extracted the power of that negative energy.
Dr. Nadine has always known that she is clairvoyant, but she was punished for exhibiting this talent as a child and kept it suppressed. Once she opened to self-love and her own healing, she embraced her clairvoyance and discovered that she is also a medical intuitive. She is dedicated to helping people connect with their Soul Purposes in life as she aids them in healing. She also offers classes and workshops designed to enable people to take control of their own healing processes. She helps create spaces for people to grow in love, especially self-love, because that is where love must begin.
Unfortunately, many people, especially women, hate their bodies. They compare themselves unfavorably with skinny models or voluptuous movie stars. By practicing some of Dr. Nadine’s techniques, one can let go of these negative images and build an inner core of self-love.
Nadine suggests finding a body part that you love. Perhaps it is your thumb. Concentrate on your thumb and think of all the reasons you love it. Thumbs are part of what makes us human. They help us grasp things; they enable us to type or use keyboards efficiently; they help us express approval or disapproval (thumbs up or thumbs down). Now consider: your thumb is attached to your hand. Think of all the fantastic things your hand can do. Keep moving. Your hand is attached to your arm. You get the idea. After a while you will come to an appreciation of your entire body. Say aloud, “I love my thumb. I love my body!”
The next one may be a bit harder for some of us. Stand in front of a mirror. Say, “I love you, (insert your own name). I really, really love you.” Repeat until you really, really believe it.
Once you have accomplished that you are ready for her third suggestion, shout out to the world, “I love myself. I’m freaking awesome!”
Dr. Nadine is part of a growing movement that is spreading the joy of finding love within ourselves and celebrating the unique, fantastic people we are. We can all discover that self-love is the key to happiness. When we truly celebrate ourselves, then we are ready to also, “Love one another.” (John 13:34)
Suggestions for Developing Self-Love
- Live in the moment, expressing gratitude constantly.
- Listen to your intuition and be honest with yourself.
- Begin each day with writing a list of five things you value about yourself.
- Combine exercise with spiritual practices, such as tai chi, yoga, or walking a labyrinth.
- Cultivate a sense of humor about yourself and life’s adventures.
- Celebrate life all the time, enjoying all of its complexities.