It stands to reason that if you put a lobster in a pot of boiling water it will scramble like hell trying to climb out. But if you put that same lobster in a pot of cold water and gradually turn up the heat, it won’t recognize that the water is boiling until it’s too late.
I think we are all pretty much like that lobster. We start out in a situation that seems to be going really well, but then slowly things change, and after awhile we don’t even realize that it’s not the same, that things have turned sour. Whether it’s a relationship, a job, our health… what might have started out great is now quite different, and the difference may not be good.
The job that excited us when we first came on board is now a drudge, but we are so conditioned to the dynamics of the workplace that we don’t even recognize that things could be better.
The relationship that has turned ugly and discordant, or perhaps even abusive: we are so used to it we no longer remember what it feels like to be in a relationship of love, kindness and mutual respect.
The health issues: after a while we are so desensitized to the pain and discomfort that it almost seems normal; we have forgotten what a strong healthy body feels like.
Are we destined to boil, like the lobster? What are out choices?
When the water is boiling sometimes we can take steps to turn off the heat, make changes in our situation. Or, after being in several pots, we might even be able to recognize that the heat’s on before things get too hot. But if things are really bad, sometimes the best course it to just get out of that darn pot!