Phyllis K. Kennemer
What do you choose to notice in each life experience? Do you focus on desired outcomes or get stuck in problems? Are you living your dreams or are you mired in negativity? Many people who want to bring about constructive changes in their lives are using the principles of NLP.
Neuro-Lingusitic Programming (NLP) is based on finding examples of excellence and modeling these exemplary practices to bring about positive life changes. NLP is a way of studying how people excel and teaching these patterns to others.u choose to notice in each life experience? Do you focus on desired outcomes or get stuck in problems? Are you living your dreams or are you mired in negativity? Many people who want to bring about constructive changes in their lives are using the principles of NLP.
Whether we realize it or not, we live our lives based upon our unique maps of the world. Because it is impossible to be aware of the totality of any occurrence, we use filters to make sense of our experiences. We do this by directing our attention to specific aspects of the event. These filters include deletion (ignoring some aspects of the situation), distortion (interpreting the experience differently than it occurs), and generalization (assuming we know more than we do). Our maps of the world depend on what we choose to notice at any given time. We can bring about positive changes in our lives through expanding our maps and adjusting our filters.
NLP began at the University of California, Santa Cruz, in the early 1970s. John Grinder, an Assistant Professor of Linguistics and Richard Bandler, a student of psychology, studied the cognitive, linguistic, and behavioral patterns of major psychotherapists such as Fritz Perls (Gestalt therapy), Virginia Satir (family therapy) and Milton Erickson (hypnotherapy).
As a result of their research, Grinder and Bandler concluded that models of excellence exist in patterns established by successful people. They developed NLP as a way to understand and model our own successes and those of others, enabling us to live more empowered lives. It is a way of discovering and unfolding personal genius. Look for excellence; model it; use it.
The principles of NLP are being used successfully worldwide in a variety of situations, including business management, salesmanship, family and personal relationships, weight management and life coaching.
The program is process oriented. Little, if any, attention is paid to the content of the problem. The coach works with the client to formulate desired outcomes and to identify resources to aid in moving toward these goals. Coaches ask “how” questions that help lead to solutions. They do not dwell on questions which circle back to problems. A strategy is developed to move toward a goal. If it works, that’s great! If it doesn’t work, it offers feedback for developing the next step. There is no failure in NLP, only unwanted results. These provide clues for redirecting the next efforts. Feedback keeps the goal in view. Proclaiming failure produces a dead end.
NLP Life Coaches consider possibilities. They know that barriers are less formidable when they receive little or no attention. Coaches keep an attitude of curiosity and fascination toward people and situations and they do not make assumptions. They know that we all have the inner resources needed to achieve our goals. If we act like this is true, it will be.
Problems related to healthy weight management can also be resolved using the principles of NLP. Overweight people generally include their present size in their map of the world and they have developed eating patterns to maintain their weight. Through working with an NLP Coach, they discover that although eating less and working out more contributes to weight loss, unless habits are changed the resulting loss may be temporary. It is important to discover the root causes of weight gain in the first place. These may be based in trauma, beliefs about the self, low self-esteem, addictive behaviors or compulsion. The NLP Coach and the client find the instigating causes. They then develop strategies for eliminating self-defeating behaviors and thought patterns. Together they set goals for achieving success. Nicole Schneider, owner and lead instructor for Global NLP, lost over 100 pounds through using NLP strategies to change both her lifestyle and her eating habits.
NLP Life Coaches help people make desirable changes in their maps of the world. These coaches have clear ideas of positive outcomes. They are alert to their clients’ needs as exhibited through seeing, hearing, and feeling expressions. They remain flexible and change practices until achieving desired results.